Truthfully when you are able to get past the feeling that you are “supposed” to be with your ex girlfriend,  you should be able to get excited about the prospects of having a new woman come into your life.  It’s really not that hard to rebound,  it can be a lot of fun,  and there is nothing wrong with trying to move on after breaking up.  You can be sure that if your ex girlfriend is totally over you,  that she is not sitting at home and thinking about you.  So,  there is nothing to worry about if you are going out to try and find a new girlfriend.

Here are some tips on how to get a new girlfriend after the break up:

1)  Get back into the swing of going out on the weekend minus the ex.

Being in a relationship can make you grow accustomed to staying in on the weekend or doing things that couples do,  but now that you are single again,  it’s time to get back to the social scenes and see what it’s like.  The first few times that you go out as a newly single guy,  it might feel kind of weird to you,  but if you allow yourself to relax and have some fun,  you should be able to get back into the swing of things easily.

2)  Don’t talk about your break up when you are talking to a woman.

Ever see a guy who has just come out of a long term relationship and he is in a bar or a club and he should be having a good time because a pretty woman is talking to him and all he can talk about with her is his ex girlfriend?  If you know that you are not going to get back together with your ex girlfriend and that what you are going to have to do is hook up with a new woman,  don’t talk to the new one about the ex.  Sure,  she probably will give you that look of pity in her eyes,  but that’s usually not a good sign if you want to date her later on.

3)  Finally.  do yourself a big favor and date at least two or three women before you try another relationship.

I am not a fan of the idea that the best thing to do after a break up is to get right back into another long term relationship right away and I never have been.  You need some time to fully get your ex girlfriend out of your system so that you don’t go and hook up with a woman who reminds you of her or end up in the same kind of a relationship but with a different kind of woman.  It’s good for you to play the field or at least have a few dates before you try and get back into a new relationship.

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Trying to make someone feel something is a really hard thing to do.  It can be done,  but you have to know how to go about it,  or else you are going to feel major confusion,  especially because a woman can go from hot to cold in a matter of moments.  At least,  that is the way that it seems sometimes.

To deal with a situation like this,  you have to start with your expectations of what is going to happen.  Most of the time,  when a guy is confused by his ex girlfriend,  it has a lot to do with reality not meeting his expectations.  Meaning,  you expect that talking to her again is going to be the first step towards patching things up and getting back together,  but when that does not happen right away… it makes you feel like it will NEVER happen.

Usually when a woman says that she is confused or she is showing signs that she is confused about the way she feels about a guy,  it is because she is kind of “one the fence” about patching things up.  A part of her wants to do this,  and then another part of her is not really sure if it is the right thing to do.  That is actually a good thing,  because as long as she is feeling that way,  you DO have a really good chance of being able to make her feel like she wants to work things out.  You just have to be able to give her a little “push” to the other side of the fence.

So,  what would make her feel like getting back together is the right thing to do?

Well,  you need to first make her feel like it is going to be easy for her to make that decision.  Most people avoid hard decisions,  but they make easy ones without much effort or thinking at all.  And you can make her feel like the decision to get back together with you is easy,  as long as you are doing certain things to make her feel an immense amount of attraction towards you.

Here are some steps that you can take if you want to make the decision to get back together seem easy to her,  so that she does not feel confused about things anymore:

1)  Focus on talking more about future things and less about the past.

It’s usually a mistake to only talk about the past with your ex girlfriend.  You might assume that it is a good thing to talk about the past,  so that you can remind her of what it used to be like when the two of you were together,  but that is not really always the best thing to do.  Most of the time,  you want to make her think positively about the future,  and of course,  with her future including you as a part of it.

2.  If she is confused,  then you have not made her feel like you are irresistible to her and that is something that you need to work on.

It might sound kind of peculiar to think that you can make yourself seem irresistible to your ex girlfriend,  but in a way,  you really can.  That feeling of you being irresistible to your ex girlfriend starts with you triggering her physical attraction to you again and then with you escalating that attraction so that she gets to the point where she has to fulfill her desire to be your girlfriend again.  It’s really not that hard to do when you learn the right techniques to make her feel that way.

All hope is not lost.  It’s actually not that bad of a situation if your ex girlfriend feels like she is confused right now.  You can easily make her feel like the confusion is gone and that the only decision that she should make is to get back together with you.  You can even discover a simple process to get your ex girlfriend back in 30 days or LESS.  You have to be ready to do this now,  though,  because the more time that you wait… the more likely that her confusion is going to lead her to decide that it is best that she just move on.

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I believe that at the end of the day,  we all just want to find our own happiness.  We want to be with someone whom we love and who loves us back.  And while the first person you may think of may be your ex when you try and think of whom you want to be with -  that may be only because you haven’t met someone else just yet.

That does not mean that they are not out there. 

And it does not mean that you should only be concerned with getting back your ex.  While I hope that many people DO end up winning back their ex if that is what they want to do… the reality is that sometimes you do have to admit that it is not going to happen and that maybe there is someone else out there that will end up making you feel happy and even make your forget about that ex that you seem to be so stuck on right now.

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It’s like,  you are caught between a rock and a hard place.  What you don’t want to do is to act all crazy just because you feel like she broke your heart.  I’ve heard stories of men doing the silliest things to try and get back an ex girlfriend when they feel like they are heartbroken and the end result is usually not what they had wanted.  They usually end up ruining any chances that they might have had to be able to win back their ex girlfriend.  I am going to assume that you do NOT want to make the same mistake.  The good thing is,  as long as you don’t get all crazy about the fact that you feel like she broke your heart… you just might be able to patch things up with her.

The fact of the matter is… you DO have to give your ex girlfriend some space,  even if that is not what you want to do right now.  You want to do this because it is going to be what helps you the most to change her mind and also for you to clear your head enough so that you can do what it is that you have to do to try and win back your ex girlfriend.  Too often,  guys don’t heed the advice of giving their ex girlfriend space when she needs it,  and they end up regretting that later on.  You don’t want to have that regret,  so give her some space right now.

Remember that there was a time when your ex girlfriend thought of you as being the right guy for her.  She felt good about the idea of dating you and of her being your girlfriend.  She probably had some pretty high hopes for the way that things would turn out,  just like you probably did.  For that reason,  you need to make the assumption that she is also taking the break up kind of hard,  even if it does not seem that way right now.  Giving her space is one of the nicest things that you can do if she is feeling like the break up is rough on her.

The First Step for You is To Get Over the Broken Heart Feeling…

Healing is as good for you as it is for her.  You truly do not want to try and pursue your ex girlfriend when you feel like your heart is broken.  Your decisions that you make when you feel that way are not going to be the best ones that you can make,  and you are not going to give off the right vibe when you are around your ex girlfriend.  Everyone knows when a guy is feeling like he is melancholy over a break up,  because the vibe that he gives off is just a downer.  That’s not really the most attractive way to be around your ex girlfriend.

Jealousy is also a very common emotion to feel when you feel like your heart has been broken by your ex girlfriend.  When you are able to get over that feeling,  you will find that you don’t get jealous that easily,  and that is a good way to be.  A guy who gets jealous too easily is usually the kind of guy that women want to avoid.  I doubt that you want your ex girlfriend to feel like she wants to avoid you.  So this is another reason why it is good for you to heal before you try and approach her again.

She Can’t Be the Only One…

Guys who are love struck and stuck on one woman take it hard when things don’t seem to be going their way.  You don’t want to be that guy,  because even if you are doing all of the right things to make her want you again,  there can be those moments where it does not seem like you are ever going to be able to get her back.  It’s those moments that count the most,  because that is when guys usually make the most mistakes in pursuing their ex girlfriend.  On the other hand,  if you have options other than just your ex, then you are probably not going to take it as hard when things don’t seem to be moving as fast as you would like them to be.

There is Good News,

As long as you can give your ex girlfriend the space that she needs,  then you should also be able to find a way to get her to come back to you.  You might not see it right now,  but it does not take much to make your ex girlfriend want you back.  Go to:  Get Over Your Heartbreak and Get Her Back if you want to follow an easy method to make it happen.

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I know,  I was pretty blunt in saying that,  but it is something that you probably need to hear right now.Just because a guy in a television show will break down and show his emotional side and it will be the thing that makes the woman he is after fall in love with him,  it does not mean that it plays out that way in real life.  Besides,  you ever see the writers that write that kind of stuff?

Not exactly the type of men that you would want to listen to when it comes to relationship matters,  I wouldn’t think.  Think about what it makes you feel like when they have those male actors break down like that.  Kind of uncomfortable,  am I right?  Guess what?  Your ex girlfriend probably feels just as uncomfortable and weirded out when you do that in front of her.

Why do so many guys break down and cry in front of their ex girlfriend?

Most of the time it has to do with them being out of options and thinking that crying is actually what their ex girlfriend wants to see.  If you have access to a group of female friends,  do this:  Ask them if they ever had an ex boyfriend cry and beg them to come back and if they have -  ask them how it made them feel.  You might be surprised at how many women actually find it kind of pathetic to see a man act that way.  Even the women that like those sappy shows and movies where the guys do that sort of thing.  In real life,  it is not really much of a turn on.

The idea that a woman is going to take her boyfriend back the moment that he starts groveling and crying and begging is steeped more in fantasy than it is reality.  Realistically speaking,  a man who falls down and begs for a second chance is almost always going to get turned down.  It’s just the way that it is.  It’s like turning the attraction switch inside of a woman to the OFF position.

Sure,  you might find a few exceptions to this here and there,  but those would be rarities and not the norm.

When you see the look that a woman gives when she sees her ex boyfriend get down on his knees to beg for her to return,  it’s not a pretty moment.  It’s actually quite rough to say the least.

So,  what should you do instead?

Well,  first thing would be to decide that no matter what… you are NOT going to beg and cry.  You are not going to turn into a sniffling mess just to try and win her back.

This is what you should be doing instead because it will be much more effective in the long run for you:

1.  Show her that no matter what,  you still have your pride.

That is the thing that you are going to lose right away if you get down on your knees and cry and she still turns you down.  A man without his pride is not really a man at all.  You really do need to have the respect of your ex girlfriend if you want her back,  and you are not going to get her respect by begging for her forgiveness.

2.  Show her that you are sorry for whatever you did,  but don’t let it get drawn out.

It’s okay to apologize for something that you might have done wrong.  But,  there is a big difference between simply apologizing and drawing things out so that it seems like everything you say is just one big apology.  A little bit is a good thing,  and too much can quickly become a bad thing.  No one wants to date someone who is constantly apologizing to them.

3. Be a man of action more than anything else.

Anyone can just say that they are sorry.  Or,  anyone can just say that things will be different the next time around.  What you want to do and what you have to do is show her that you are a man of action.  It might be a cliche,  but it is true -  Actions do speak louder than words,  especially when you are trying to win the heart of a woman you have lost.

Who would you rather be?  The guy that cries and begs and still does not win his ex girlfriend back or the guy who learns a much better method and learns to get his ex girlfriend back in no time at all without having to lose your pride?

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What is the one thing that can totally take away any hope that you might have of being able to win back your ex girlfriend?  Finding out that your ex girlfriend is dating someone else.  Just hearing this has sunk the hopes of many a man who was hoping to be able to one day win back the heart of a former girlfriend.  It hurts just to even think about her being with another man.  You imagine all of the worst case scenarios.  You imagine her falling in love with him and totally forgetting all about you.  Should you assume that you have lost any chance of being able to win back your ex girlfriend if you know that she is now dating another man?

Well,  to say that things are probably not turning out the way that you would hope they would is probably an understatement.  No guy wants to know that there is a new guy in the picture.  No guy wants to imagine another man touching his ex girlfriend,  kissing her,  and doing who else knows what with her.  One thing that you do really have to be careful of here is allowing your imagination to run wild and get the best of you.  She might not be doing all of the things that you think she is with this new guy.  And even if she is,  it does not necessarily mean that you don’t have any hope of being able to get back with her at some point in time.  Most guys will NOT be able to get back their ex girlfriend when she starts dating someone else.  However,  there is a reason for that,  and knowing why most men won’t be able to can help you to be the exception to the rule.

I don’t think that you necessarily have to forget about your ex girlfriend or assume that she is not going to ever get back together with you.  As long as you don’t allow your imagination to run too wild and you don’t allow yourself to get too jealous -  there is still a pretty good chance that you can win her back.  To get that second chance with your ex girlfriend that you are hoping for,  you do have to understand that the worst thing that you can do is to let yourself get out of control right now.

You Might As Well Do Some Dating Of Your Own Right Now…

Your ex girlfriend is doing her thing and seeing someone else.  So,  why are you sitting at home and thinking about her when you can be out there and dating as well?  There is nothing worse than allowing yourself to sit at home in your own misery when you DO have the option of going out,  meeting a new woman,  and having your own fling or rebound relationship.  The guy that sits at home and waits for his ex girlfriend to come back around usually doesn’t get her back.  He just usually ends up depressed and alone.  It’s much better for you to start dating again,  and you might just trigger a little bit of jealousy when your ex girlfriend finds that you are doing your own thing.  That may be enough of a catalyst to get her thinking about getting back together with you again.

Let Her See that You Are Happy She is Dating Again…

You really can’t go too wrong by showing your ex girlfriend that you are happy that she is moving on with her life.  You are letting her see a side of you that she probably will be surprised by. It’s more mature and it reflects well on you to let your ex girlfriend see that you are totally cool with the idea of her seeing someone else,  especially if YOU are doing your own thing as well.

Listen Carefully,

Just because she is dating again, it does not mean you are going to give up all hope.  If you know  how to get your girlfriend back by making her feel all of the right emotions,  then the other guy does not really stand that much of a chance.

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You are not sure if she wants to be friends,  be more than friends,  or if she just wants to play around with your emotions for the thrill of it.  There are times when it seems like she doesn’t want to have anything at all to do with you and that hurts.  But then,  she seems to know when the right time is to show you just enough interest to make you come running back to her.  What are you going to do if you are confused by your ex girlfriend and you are still in love with her,  even if she does seem to be playing games with you?

Women know how to give men mixed signals so well,  it’s almost like it is a skill that they are born with.  I don’t think I know a single guy who has never felt like an ex girlfriend of his was sending him mixed signals.  And I bet that when this happens,  most guys end up feeling like they are just totally confused and don’t know what to do.  The sick thing is,  there are some women that will play games with an ex boyfriend’s mind just for the fun of it.  Most won’t,  but some definitely will.  So,  it is hard to really know what your ex girlfriend is up to.

How can a guy tell if his ex girlfriend is playing games for the fun of it or because she is still kind of into him?

Before you even think about trying to decipher what is going on with you and your ex girlfriend,  you should really think about what it is that you really want.  Sometimes all of that game playing and mind confusion makes a man feel like he is in love with his ex girlfriend,  when the reality is that he is just addicted to the games that are being played.  You really want to make sure that you are totally into your ex girlfriend for real and not because the games she plays seem to be addictive to you.  Another thing that you need to know is that it is not always easy to deal with a situation like this,  even if it does mean that she is still interested in you.  Some guys just cannot handle the games and if you are one of those guys -  then you might just consider getting over your ex girlfriend.

If you can handle the way that things are going and you can deal with the idea that you may have to wait her out a bit before you can get her back,  you are probably going to be able to find out what her real intentions are.  Like I said before,  SOME women will play mind games with an ex boyfriend just because they can and not because they have any interest in him at all.  If that is the case with YOUR ex girlfriend,  then you might be out of luck.  On the other hand MOST ex girlfriends will play these kinds of games when they are undecided about what they really want.  That is a good sign for you,  because it does mean that she is still possibly into the idea of being with you again.  You just need to be able to handle the little games that she is playing and you need to be able to entice her to make the right decision,  which is to get back together with you.

You always have many options on the table.

It’s cool if you want to be able to get your ex girlfriend back.  I respect that and encourage that most of the time.  However,  even if that is the case,  don’t act like you don’t have any options other than HER.  I am sure that if you get your confidence up,  you learn a few proven techniques to attract women,  then you can have multiple options that include your ex girlfriend.  Who would you rather be?  The guy with only one option or the guy with many women to choose from?

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Relationships have their ups and their downs all of the time.  Just because the going gets rough,  it does not always mean that the relationship should come to an end.  Sometimes it is just a sign that you need to work on things a little bit more.  Sometimes,  it is a sign that you have to step back and realize what it is that you need to do to make things work out with a woman you love.  Quitters never win and you don’t want to feel like you have quit when you could have won back your ex girlfriend,  do you?

As long as you have the desire to be able to work things out with your ex girlfriend,  then you might as well go for it.  Just realize that there are PLENTY of mistakes that you can make along the way.  There are plenty of things that you will think are the right thing to do,  only to see later on that they were the WRONG choice to make.  You don’t want to make so many mistakes that you ruin any chance that you might have had of being able to get back the woman you love,  so it’s wise to learn what mistakes to avoid when you are trying to get your ex girlfriend back.

Here are 3 mistakes that I can think of that will hurt your chances of being able to get back the woman you love:

1.  A classic mistake that guys will make with their ex girlfriend is to try and be just friends with her.

Staying friends with an ex girlfriend is only a good idea if you want to be just friends and nothing more than that.  If you still want to be her boyfriend,  then the last thing you should do is to begin to act like a friend.  That does not mean that you should not be friendly with her,  but it does mean that you have to be really careful about putting yourself in the friend zone.  Most guys just can’t seem to be able to get themselves out of that zone once they are there,  so why do that intentionally if you don’t have to?

2.  You also don’t want to make the mistake of acting like you and her are still dating.

I have seen the way that some guys interact with their ex girlfriend and quite often,  they will try and act like the break up never happened and that they are still with her.  They talk about her like she is still their girlfriend and not their ex and not only is this not really healthy,  it’s also a sure fire way to creep out your ex girlfriend and make her feel like she does not want to deal with you anymore.  You want to get her back and that is a good thing,  just don’t make it seem like you are delusional and acting like you are still together.

3.  Don’t make the mistake of thinking anything that she does is a sign that she wants you back.

Another really classic mistake that men make is that they allow themselves to see only what they want to see.  So,  they will misinterpret anything that their ex girlfriend does as a sign that she wants them back.  Look,  some things may be a sign that she does still like you and maybe even wants to be back with you.  However,  some signs that guys think mean that their ex girlfriend wants them back are really harmless signs of her being friendly and cordial.  A smile is a good example of this.  Most women will smile at an ex boyfriend no matter how they feel,  so something like that is really not a clear cut sign of her being interested in you.  There are SOME signs that you should be on the look out for,  though.

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You have to first kind of define what it is that we mean when we say that a woman is playing hard to get.  It does not mean that she is showing absolutely no interest at all.  It means that she is flirty and obviously showing interest in you one day and then the next,  she seems a little more distant.  Sometimes it will even go as far as her showing major interest and then pulling away at the very last moment.  A common misconception that some men will have is that they think a woman is playing hard to get with them when she is showing like no interest at all and then they wonder why they can’t seem to be able to seal the deal with her.  If she is showing no interest at all… then you need to just move on because it means she just isn’t feeling you.

Now,  that we have that defined,  here is what you should do if your ex girlfriend seems to be playing hard to get with you:

First and foremost,  you can’t let the situation get to you.  You have to show her that you are cool with the way things are going and that you are not going to get unraveled because she is playing her little game of being hard to get.  If you buckle and you show that you are losing your cool,  you are probably going to lose her interest in you and that is not a good thing at all.  This is not the time to tell her how you feel and try your best to do some long and poetic speech about your feelings.  This is the time to be flirtatious and fun and to learn to use certain techniques to build a lot of sexual tension with her.

What you have to realize is that when you let go of the feeling of being unnerved because she is playing hard to get with you and you just relax and have fun with it,  then it is actually a chance to have a good time with her.  The more you build up the playfulness and the sexual tension with your ex girlfriend… the more likely it is that you going to end up back together and it can happen in what seems like the blink of an eye.

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There’s something that you have to face if you have broken up with your girlfriend recently. The longer that you wait to do something about what you are feeling, the longer that you put off learning how to attract her back… the more likely it is that the breakup will stay and you will end up finding out the she is in love with someone else. You don’t want to end up with that hanging over your head, so you better get ready to discover how to attract her back and make her want to come back together with you.

Here are 3 tips on how to attract her back after breaking up:

1. If you want to reconcile with your ex girlfriend, you need to be ready to deal with your emotions right now.

As guys, we are not generally known for dealing with out emotions, but if you put this off or try to suppress them, then you will regret it later down the road. I am not saying that you need to cry things out, I am saying that you need to deal with the fact that you are still in love with her, and that you want to find a way to pull her back. Try to deny this, and you only end up selling yourself short.

2. To get her to come back to you, she needs to see a BRAND NEW you.

As much as it might sting to have to admit this, but you need to make some changes if your girlfriend broke up with you. More specifically, you need to make your ex girlfriend look at you and see a brand new you. Otherwise, she will just think you are the same old guy, and there will be no reason why she should consider getting back together. You have to make yourself appear to be a better version of yourself so that she feels the year to get back together again.

3. You need to have a plan of action and be ready to go with it if you are going to win her back.

You know that you would need to have a blueprint readily available if you wanted to build a new shed in the backyard, right? Well, if you want to rebuild and repair the relationship and get back your ex girlfriend, then you need to have a plan for that as well. Otherwise, you will end up missing a few steps and lose her FOREVER.

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