How to Win Back Your Girlfriend – Without Having to Turn Into a Sniffling Mess!
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Have you broken down and cried in front of your ex girlfriend yet? Have you opened up your emotional wounds and shown you scars thinking that this would be what would make her want to give you a second chance with her? Even though this is one of the most commonly used tactics that men will try - time and time again it proves to be the wrong choice. It doesn’t matter how many people say that showing her all of your raw emotions is the way to go… the reality is that most of the time - it is the worst choice that you can make. There are plenty of methods to try and get an ex girlfriend back that are going to work much better than turning into a sniffling mess when you are around her.
I know, I was pretty blunt in saying that, but it is something that you probably need to hear right now.Just because a guy in a television show will break down and show his emotional side and it will be the thing that makes the woman he is after fall in love with him, it does not mean that it plays out that way in real life. Besides, you ever see the writers that write that kind of stuff?
Not exactly the type of men that you would want to listen to when it comes to relationship matters, I wouldn’t think. Think about what it makes you feel like when they have those male actors break down like that. Kind of uncomfortable, am I right? Guess what? Your ex girlfriend probably feels just as uncomfortable and weirded out when you do that in front of her.
Why do so many guys break down and cry in front of their ex girlfriend?
Most of the time it has to do with them being out of options and thinking that crying is actually what their ex girlfriend wants to see. If you have access to a group of female friends, do this: Ask them if they ever had an ex boyfriend cry and beg them to come back and if they have - ask them how it made them feel. You might be surprised at how many women actually find it kind of pathetic to see a man act that way. Even the women that like those sappy shows and movies where the guys do that sort of thing. In real life, it is not really much of a turn on.
The idea that a woman is going to take her boyfriend back the moment that he starts groveling and crying and begging is steeped more in fantasy than it is reality. Realistically speaking, a man who falls down and begs for a second chance is almost always going to get turned down. It’s just the way that it is. It’s like turning the attraction switch inside of a woman to the OFF position.
Sure, you might find a few exceptions to this here and there, but those would be rarities and not the norm.
When you see the look that a woman gives when she sees her ex boyfriend get down on his knees to beg for her to return, it’s not a pretty moment. It’s actually quite rough to say the least.
So, what should you do instead?
Well, first thing would be to decide that no matter what… you are NOT going to beg and cry. You are not going to turn into a sniffling mess just to try and win her back.
This is what you should be doing instead because it will be much more effective in the long run for you:
1. Show her that no matter what, you still have your pride.
That is the thing that you are going to lose right away if you get down on your knees and cry and she still turns you down. A man without his pride is not really a man at all. You really do need to have the respect of your ex girlfriend if you want her back, and you are not going to get her respect by begging for her forgiveness.
2. Show her that you are sorry for whatever you did, but don’t let it get drawn out.
It’s okay to apologize for something that you might have done wrong. But, there is a big difference between simply apologizing and drawing things out so that it seems like everything you say is just one big apology. A little bit is a good thing, and too much can quickly become a bad thing. No one wants to date someone who is constantly apologizing to them.
3. Be a man of action more than anything else.
Anyone can just say that they are sorry. Or, anyone can just say that things will be different the next time around. What you want to do and what you have to do is show her that you are a man of action. It might be a cliche, but it is true - Actions do speak louder than words, especially when you are trying to win the heart of a woman you have lost.
Who would you rather be? The guy that cries and begs and still does not win his ex girlfriend back or the guy who learns a much better method and learns to get his ex girlfriend back in no time at all without having to lose your pride?
